5 Ways to Survive the Holiday Season

By |2018-11-26T12:44:50+00:00October 22nd, 2018|Health, Life, Uncategorized, Wellness|30 Comments

Ho, ho, hoooooo!  We’re approaching the holiday season and that means seasonal drinks at your fav coffee store, Black Friday deals, cozy sweaters (jumpers if I’m getting down with the UK lingo) and holiday cheer.

That’s what we usually think of.  Truthfully, the holidays aren’t always a happy time and while I’m not trying to be that person I think it’s fair to acknowledge the last part of the year can be a hard time for many.

Whatever the reason for not having much love for the season, I’m here to help you navigate this time.

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Surviving the holidays solo

Whether you’re single, don’t have any friends or live far apart from your fam, here’s how to survive the holiday season when you’re on your solo dolo.

  1. Don’t get caught up in the lovenessity of it all.  Between Christmas and Valentine’s, I have learned to not be jealous of people’s relationships.  When the love of my life is meant to move me into my Sailor Moon dream world, it will happen.
  2. The holiday season is a great time to meet new people.  Don’t be afraid to exchange numbers whether it’s for a romantic lil something or just making new friends in your city.  Remember, if you’re having adult fun you should always use protection!
  3. If a church member, work colleague or organization extends an invite for a holiday meal, take it.  Don’t let shame or pride force you to be alone. It’s also an opportunity to make friends or strengthen budding bonds.

 

Missing loved ones

The end of the year is traditionally a time when family comes together.  If a loved one recently passed away or if you’re miles away from family and friends, it can be tough.  Why not try:

  1. Honoring your missing loved one.  Put photos of them around your home, acknowledge them during your Christmas blessing, light a candle for them at church.
  2. Do one of your family traditions wherever you are.  Bring a bit of home to where you are.  Maybe your family always played a certain song on Christmas morning – crank up the music!
  3. Start a new tradition that honors or highlights family.  If you don’t have a tradition there’s no rule saying you can’t start one.

 

You’re not in a healthy space

The holiday season is usually when we start reflecting over the past year and sometimes we’re not happy with what we see.  If you’re in an unhealthy relationship, living situation, etc, don’t give up hope.

  1. Reach out to trusted family and friends – often we believe we’re in these situations by ourselves but that’s not always the case.  Many people have support systems; for some, it’s obvious, for others it not, but if you take a close look there is someone in your life who will have your back.  Reach out.
  2. Get help from a charity or organization.  When I initially moved to London, I called The Samaritans because I needed someone to talk to.  They helped me talk through the emotions I was experiencing which ultimately helped me level up.
  3. Be a goal getter.  If you’re mentally and emotionally stable enough to make better choices for yourself, do it.  Don’t wait until December 31st if you want more. Start today and start small. With each step, you will get closer to accomplishing your goals.
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Note: I know there is so much more that goes into getting into a better space than three tips.  It takes work, it’s scary.  You can do this.

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Your family is annoying

We’ve all laughed at the family dinner memes and the annoying questions that pop up around the holiday season, but for some people, family is more toxic than heartwarming.

  1. It’s okay to remove yourself entirely from family.  If your family is a source of toxicity there is no rule that says you have to allow those toxins into your life.  Not in the name of a turkey dinner.
  2. Maybe it’s one individual who is bringing bad juju into your life – put your hater blockers on.  Either ignore that person and enjoy the rest of your family or speak to them privately and let them know you love em, but you no like em.
  3. Family is what you make it.  As unrealistic as the sitcom FRIENDS was (I mean…come on), it did show us ultimately who we choose to share our love and life with is truly our family.

Keeping up with Carters

I am not Beyonce so I have to remind myself during the holiday season I do not have to shop every sale.  We need to recognize financial abuse cause come January, shit gets real.

  1. Budget for this period of additional spending.  The earlier you can start finding ways to adjust your budget ahead of the holiday season, the easier you’ll find it to enjoy the season without stress.
  2. Buy the things you need.  These holiday sales are great for snapping up your essentials at a discounted price.  I make a list of the top 10 things I need and focus on trying to obtain those first.  Afterward, I can treat myself.  Adulting.
  3. Don’t live your life according to people’s Instagram feed.  You have zero clue how much debt someone is taking on to show off their new tv, computer, car, holiday house, luxury handbag… I gladly let people flaunt their shit while remembering I am debt free.  And I plan on keeping it that way.
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No matter what issues you’re facing this upcoming holiday season it’s important to remember you’ve got this.

Go at your own pace; it’s okay to take a break from the fa la la la la of it all.

Anytime you’re feeling overwhelmed just pop back here and read this post.  Likewise, if you know someone who might be facing a tough holiday season be supportive.  It’s so easy to get caught up into thinking everyone’s holiday will be like a Netflix movie but does it look like I’m bumping into undercover princes at a ski lodge?  Um no.

For my sanity I have to put on a semi Grinch vibe from November – January and that works for me.   Just like all the holiday season lovers want people to respect their endless cheer, respect that others need to approach things at a slower pace.

Let’s chat: are you a lover of the holidays or do you grinch it up?  Let me know below!

5 Ways to Survive the Holiday Season

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30 Comments

  1. Dani@StoriesFilled October 23, 2018 at 9:14 am - Reply

    Great well thought out advice! Good job

  2. Chloe chats October 23, 2018 at 9:25 am - Reply

    Lovely post, some really good advice! I usually love Christmas, it’s that you get a few lazy days with the family eating lots of food and just watching TV! Although from having bigger Christmas get togethers, it’s now only the 3 of us this year but it’ll always be a special day 🙂

    Chloe xx
    http://www.chloechats.com

  3. Naomi October 23, 2018 at 10:23 am - Reply

    Great pins and some funny but oh so true tips there!

  4. Kate October 23, 2018 at 11:06 am - Reply

    This was great- totally giggled at Your Family is Annoying! All of these are so true, and while the season can be overwhelming – we have a lot of control over that. Great read!

  5. Julis October 23, 2018 at 11:18 am - Reply

    I love how you included the part for single people, that’s totally me and I have to do what you said and remind myself to not let myself compare or get caught up in it all.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

    • Olli October 25, 2018 at 6:39 am - Reply

      Hey! I’m single and I’m always single so I get it. I GET it, get it. It can be hard seeing couples in love during various holiday seasons or just in general, but I’ve found being jealous only makes me an angrier woman. It’s not worth it. I’m so happy I’ve learned this!

  6. Rachel October 23, 2018 at 12:24 pm - Reply

    I love how you wrote about family. This is what I’m struggling with right now. I wish sometimes that we didn’t live near each other so I had that excuse. We live just 20 min away. I would love to not see this person. It really hit home. Rachel from Explore Kid Talk

    • Olli October 25, 2018 at 6:48 am - Reply

      Aw I’m sorry family has you down during the holidays Rachel; I know it’s tough for some people so that’s one of the reasons why I wanted to include it in this post. Maybe you can use that tip of having a chat with that person and letting them know this year, you’re not putting up with their bull OR you could lean on a diff family member for support. However you choose to address it, I wish you luck.

  7. Andrea | First Mate Wifey October 23, 2018 at 1:37 pm - Reply

    What a fantastic post! Seriously, this is wonderful advice at a time many need to hear it. Definitely sharing!
    Also, your writing style is superb. Goals.

    • Olli October 25, 2018 at 6:28 am - Reply

      So glad you enjoyed this post. It’s very important to me to be able to reach someone who might have a difficult time during the holidays this year. I’ve been in a state before, it’s not easy so these tips come from experience.

  8. Mykk October 23, 2018 at 3:33 pm - Reply

    The holidays are always complicated for me – I don’t personally celebrate the same winter holiday most of my family and friends do, so sometimes it feels a little isolating and like I have to do things their way to have any fun. I’d really rather not, y’know – I’d be perfectly happy to spend the winter holidays alone at home with some good food, candles, and a lot of books.

    On The Cusp | https://on-th3-cusp.blogspot.com/

    • Olli October 25, 2018 at 6:27 am - Reply

      Maybe you can tell your family you want to scale back on the amount of activities you do over the holiday season. My family isn’t one of those “traditional Christmas families” but even if we were, I would avoid all the activities. I’d still eat the food.

  9. Peanuts and Cacahuetes October 24, 2018 at 10:39 am - Reply

    I’m a lover of these holidays! Just because it means family time, happy faces and smiles. It’s also the time where you see family or friends that you haven’t seen in a while so I love it!!
    But these tips are really great and can be a lifesaver for many people! I really enjoyed reading it! 😀
    Thank you for sharing!!

    • Olli October 25, 2018 at 6:20 am - Reply

      Hey! I get it, a lot of people really enjoy the holidays and when you think of it like a family friendly time it can make you feel very warm and fuzzy inside. I hope for someone who has a difficult time these tips are helpful and for those who don’t, these tips help them relate to those who do!

  10. Janice October 24, 2018 at 11:52 am - Reply

    Great ideas, and thoughts about the holidays

  11. Elizabeth October 24, 2018 at 12:09 pm - Reply

    Great post. I get overwhelmed with so much family time around the holidays!

    • Olli October 25, 2018 at 6:16 am - Reply

      I hope you make it through the holiday season this year. Good luck!

  12. ellie October 25, 2018 at 6:48 pm - Reply

    This advice is so well thought at and really informative, thank you so much for sharing this! x

    My recent post: https://lifeofellabella.blogspot.com/2018/10/a-few-things-i-have-been-loving.html

  13. Mumstheword October 28, 2018 at 8:38 am - Reply

    Feeling holiday ready now 🎄 🎅🏼

  14. Chloe Elizabeth October 28, 2018 at 8:53 am - Reply

    Love this post! Last year I really struggled with being alone but I’m hoping for a better one this year, as I’m feeling much more myself!

    • Olli October 28, 2018 at 9:14 am - Reply

      Whenever I do the holidays alone I take the time to just relax and enjoy myself. A nice bath, wine, my fav foods, I make plans for my future and google crap I’ve meant to google for ages. I think it’s all about turning “alone” into something positive. I’m happy to visit my brother this year for the holidays but if I had to do it solo, I would and I’d just make it about sprinkling cheer and joy on myself.

  15. Ellie October 28, 2018 at 9:46 am - Reply

    I love this post so much, such lovely words and amazing advice! Plus the photos are stunning x

    My recent post: https://lifeofellabella.blogspot.com/2018/10/how-to-stay-motivated.html

  16. Elisabeth Straw October 28, 2018 at 1:04 pm - Reply

    Great post. We always find Christmas hard in our family as my brother died just before it in 2013.

    • Olli October 28, 2018 at 4:50 pm - Reply

      I hope you can keep him in your heart and find a way to bring him into your holiday celebrations. I’ve had family members die close to Christmas and New Years and it’s very tough so I understand the emotions surrounding that.

  17. Lisa October 29, 2018 at 3:27 am - Reply

    Great Read. Really enjoyed the keeping up with the Carters section. I always forget to save for this time of year and it always seems like everyone is getting such great stuff that I want too!! Have to keep the big goal in mind of traveling more which means saving more for that!

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