Ho, ho, hoooooo! We’re approaching the holiday season and that means seasonal drinks at your fav coffee store, Black Friday deals, cozy sweaters (jumpers if I’m getting down with the UK lingo) and holiday cheer.
That’s what we usually think of. Truthfully, the holidays aren’t always a happy time and while I’m not trying to be that person I think it’s fair to acknowledge the last part of the year can be a hard time for many.
Whatever the reason for not having much love for the season, I’m here to help you navigate this time.
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Surviving the holidays solo
Whether you’re single, don’t have any friends or live far apart from your fam, here’s how to survive the holiday season when you’re on your solo dolo.
- Don’t get caught up in the lovenessity of it all. Between Christmas and Valentine’s, I have learned to not be jealous of people’s relationships. When the love of my life is meant to move me into my Sailor Moon dream world, it will happen.
- The holiday season is a great time to meet new people. Don’t be afraid to exchange numbers whether it’s for a romantic lil something or just making new friends in your city. Remember, if you’re having adult fun you should always use protection!
- If a church member, work colleague or organization extends an invite for a holiday meal, take it. Don’t let shame or pride force you to be alone. It’s also an opportunity to make friends or strengthen budding bonds.
Missing loved ones
The end of the year is traditionally a time when family comes together. If a loved one recently passed away or if you’re miles away from family and friends, it can be tough. Why not try:
- Honoring your missing loved one. Put photos of them around your home, acknowledge them during your Christmas blessing, light a candle for them at church.
- Do one of your family traditions wherever you are. Bring a bit of home to where you are. Maybe your family always played a certain song on Christmas morning – crank up the music!
- Start a new tradition that honors or highlights family. If you don’t have a tradition there’s no rule saying you can’t start one.
You’re not in a healthy space
The holiday season is usually when we start reflecting over the past year and sometimes we’re not happy with what we see. If you’re in an unhealthy relationship, living situation, etc, don’t give up hope.
- Reach out to trusted family and friends – often we believe we’re in these situations by ourselves but that’s not always the case. Many people have support systems; for some, it’s obvious, for others it not, but if you take a close look there is someone in your life who will have your back. Reach out.
- Get help from a charity or organization. When I initially moved to London, I called The Samaritans because I needed someone to talk to. They helped me talk through the emotions I was experiencing which ultimately helped me level up.
- Be a goal getter. If you’re mentally and emotionally stable enough to make better choices for yourself, do it. Don’t wait until December 31st if you want more. Start today and start small. With each step, you will get closer to accomplishing your goals.
Note: I know there is so much more that goes into getting into a better space than three tips. It takes work, it’s scary. You can do this.
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Your family is annoying
We’ve all laughed at the family dinner memes and the annoying questions that pop up around the holiday season, but for some people, family is more toxic than heartwarming.
- It’s okay to remove yourself entirely from family. If your family is a source of toxicity there is no rule that says you have to allow those toxins into your life. Not in the name of a turkey dinner.
- Maybe it’s one individual who is bringing bad juju into your life – put your hater blockers on. Either ignore that person and enjoy the rest of your family or speak to them privately and let them know you love em, but you no like em.
- Family is what you make it. As unrealistic as the sitcom FRIENDS was (I mean…come on), it did show us ultimately who we choose to share our love and life with is truly our family.
Keeping up with Carters
I am not Beyonce so I have to remind myself during the holiday season I do not have to shop every sale. We need to recognize financial abuse cause come January, shit gets real.
- Budget for this period of additional spending. The earlier you can start finding ways to adjust your budget ahead of the holiday season, the easier you’ll find it to enjoy the season without stress.
- Buy the things you need. These holiday sales are great for snapping up your essentials at a discounted price. I make a list of the top 10 things I need and focus on trying to obtain those first. Afterward, I can treat myself. Adulting.
- Don’t live your life according to people’s Instagram feed. You have zero clue how much debt someone is taking on to show off their new tv, computer, car, holiday house, luxury handbag… I gladly let people flaunt their shit while remembering I am debt free. And I plan on keeping it that way.
No matter what issues you’re facing this upcoming holiday season it’s important to remember you’ve got this.
Go at your own pace; it’s okay to take a break from the fa la la la la of it all.
Anytime you’re feeling overwhelmed just pop back here and read this post. Likewise, if you know someone who might be facing a tough holiday season be supportive. It’s so easy to get caught up into thinking everyone’s holiday will be like a Netflix movie but does it look like I’m bumping into undercover princes at a ski lodge? Um no.
For my sanity I have to put on a semi Grinch vibe from November – January and that works for me. Just like all the holiday season lovers want people to respect their endless cheer, respect that others need to approach things at a slower pace.
Let’s chat: are you a lover of the holidays or do you grinch it up? Let me know below!
5 Ways to Survive the Holiday Season
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